Our First Meeting: An Online Dating Tale, our first meeting brought our love story to life—full of moments we’ll never forget.
The journey into online dating began unexpectedly—with a family misunderstanding. I’ve always cherished my role as the “favorite aunt,” delighting in cooking and quality time with my nieces and nephews. But a conversation with my sister-in-law brought a surprising realization: I wanted a family of my own, one that didn’t revolve around someone else’s schedule.
Rediscovering Balance and Self-Worth
For years, I lived in what I now call “selfless mode.” I placed others’ needs above my own, and my career turned into a routine lacking joy. Personal growth? That was always last on the list.
While I took pride in supporting my family, I began to realize that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Like a plant needing both sunlight and water, we all require care and space to grow.
This awakening led to a powerful lesson: setting healthy boundaries is a vital part of building meaningful relationships. I learned that burnout happens when we forget to nurture ourselves.
Self-care and personal boundaries became the tools I used to rediscover my worth. True happiness comes from balancing compassion for others with care for ourselves. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
The Power of Autonomy and Accountability
Reflecting on my journey, I’ve come to appreciate the deep value of personal autonomy. Making decisions that align with your authentic self is foundational for lasting growth.
Support from loved ones is precious, but true personal empowerment requires a strong sense of direction. Surrounding yourself with uplifting people fuels motivation, but overprotection—even when well-meaning—can hinder independence and resilience.
Taking ownership of your choices builds confidence and fosters accountability. Growth comes not just from making decisions, but from learning and evolving through them.
Stepping Into the Online Dating World
My entry into the world of online dating was a mix of curiosity, encouragement, and necessity. A friend with a happy online dating success story—marriage and even a baby—nudged me toward giving it a try. Meanwhile, family members gently urged me to prioritize my happiness and find someone to share life with.
Living in a small town meant dating options were slim. It felt like trying to date inside one big family reunion! If I wanted something real, I needed to step outside my comfort zone.
Online dating felt intimidating at first—like boarding a roller coaster blindfolded. My mind raced with questions: What if it works? What if it’s a total disaster?
So I did my homework.
I researched dating apps, studied how to write an authentic dating profile, and learned the red flags to avoid. My goal was simple: to attract genuine people looking for real connections—not casual flings.
This prep work felt empowering. Dating is an emotional investment, and just like anything meaningful in life, it deserves intention, preparation, and heart.
Online Dating Tips for Finding Your Perfect Match:
- Be yourself, sparkle included! Your bio is your shop window – it should showcase who you are in a way that’s attractive and interesting. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, potential matches can sniff out fakeness a mile away. You can use Pinterest: Your visual mood board for crafting the perfect dating bio.
- Show, don’t tell. Instead of listing generic qualities, use details and hobbies to paint a picture of your personality. Love hiking? Mention your favorite local trail! Into cooking? Describe your signature dish!
- Spice it up with a touch of humor. A funny anecdote or witty line can grab someone’s attention and make them smile.
- Keep it positive! Nobody wants to swipe right on negativity. Focus on the things you enjoy and the kind of person you’re looking for.
Avoiding Red Flags (and Being the Green Light):
- Red Flag Radar: Be aware of red flags in others’ profiles or messages. Excessive negativity, unrealistic expectations, or controlling behavior are all signs to swipe left.
- Be the Green Light: Don’t be the red flag yourself! Be upfront, honest, and respectful in your interactions.
- Quality over Quantity: Don’t juggle a million conversations at once. Focus on building genuine connections with a few interesting people. Imagine how you’d feel if someone was doing the same to you.
- Setting the Right Age Parameters. Make sure to adjust your age preference settings on the dating app. I specifically set mine to 30 to 35 years old because I want to meet people closer to my age. I find that significant age gaps can lead to different interests and lifestyles. To avoid time-wasting conversations, I also mentioned my love for reading in my bio to attract like-minded people.
Finding Your Spark:
- Are You Ready to Date? One of the most important things to consider before dating, whether online or in person, is your emotional readiness. Being open to sharing your personal space with someone else is crucial. It’s essential to know your boundaries and what you can bring to a relationship. If you’re still healing from a past heartbreak, it’s important to prioritize your emotional well-being before diving back into the dating world. This allows you to be fully present and offer your best self to a potential partner.
- Sincerity is Sexy: Put your genuine self out there and look for someone who appreciates you for who you are. Don’t be afraid to have heartfelt conversations, but also keep things light and fun!
- Quality Conversations: Spark meaningful connections by asking thoughtful questions and actively listening to their answers. Look for conversations that flow naturally and leave you wanting more.
- The Golden Rule Applies: Treat others the way you want to be treated. Be respectful, show interest, and communicate clearly.
Online dating is a journey filled with hope, self-discovery, and anticipation. When you present your authentic self and prioritize meaningful connections, your chances of finding someone truly compatible increase dramatically.
Our First In-Person Meeting
I felt a mix of excitement and nerves thinking about meeting him. It was nothing like my usual days. The airport was busy with people, and soon, I’d see Mike for the first time. Love that felt like a dream was about to become real. I couldn’t help but wonder—would he be the same in person? Waiting had been hard, filled with both hope and doubt.
I waited nervously at NAIA Terminal 1. Then I saw him—Mike! He stood out right away, and I rushed into his arms. After months of calls and messages, he was really here in the Philippines, just like he said he’d be.
It felt so different from saying “I miss you” through a screen. Walking hand-in-hand felt natural, even though it was our first time face-to-face. Because of our daily video calls, there was no awkwardness—just comfort, like seeing an old friend.
We already knew so much about each other, so we spent the time laughing, remembering funny moments, and simply enjoying being together. It felt like we’d been close for years, even with the distance.
Our First Breakfast Together: A Simple, Perfect Start
In all my 34 years, I had never met anyone like Mike. He didn’t just keep his promises—he did even more than he said he would. Seeing him in person made everything feel real.
The trust we built was strong and true. It was something I had never felt before. That morning, I was full of happiness. It felt like the start of something really special.
We had our first breakfast together at Savoy Hotel, and it felt like a big moment. After all those late-night video calls, finally sitting across from each other at a table was amazing.
There was a big breakfast buffet with lots of tasty food. Mike even tried some Filipino dishes like sinangag (fried rice) and tinapa (smoked fish). I loved that he was open to trying something new.
We both had hot coffee and laughed a lot. The day was just starting, and we couldn’t wait to explore the city together. But that quiet morning, sitting side by side, was already perfect.
It was a simple meal—but to us, it meant everything.
A Canvas Painted with Moments
Mike and I spent the day exploring the city together. He was so excited—like a kid in a candy store—pointing at old buildings and their unique designs. Everything seemed new and interesting to him.
We visited the Shrine of St. Thérèse, a peaceful and beautiful church. Holding hands while walking around made the moment feel even more special.😍
After some sightseeing, we headed to Newport Mall. The stores were open, and the bright lights made the place feel alive.
Mike decided to play a game of bowling, and I stood by cheering him on, taking photos and videos of every shot. It felt just like a normal first date—two people enjoying each other’s company.
But to me, Mike was more than just a date. He felt like a celebrity! 😂 I couldn’t help but fangirl a little. Honestly, he’s cooler than any K-pop idol I’ve ever followed. Sorry, Choi Si-won and Rain—you’ve got nothing on Mike😆!
Later, we grabbed lunch at Resorts World Manila, the perfect place to relax and recharge after a fun-filled morning. We spent the afternoon people-watching, laughing, and enjoying good food.
It was simple, but unforgettable. A perfect first day together in real life.
Serendipity’s Compass: Finding Love in the Digital Age
Sometimes, random moments lead to the biggest changes in our lives. In today’s world of online dating, we have access to so many people—it’s both a gift and a challenge.
Yes, it can feel shallow at times. But it also gives us the chance to build real, deep connections with the right person.
Our digital journey wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. We both went through ups and downs—disappointments, heartbreaks, and moments of self-doubt. But each step brought us closer to where we needed to be.
Getting through rejection and past pain takes courage. But those hard times teach us what we really want—and what we deserve.
Some online interactions may leave you feeling unworthy or confused. But real connections remind us of our true value. There are people out there who will see your worth and appreciate you just as you are.
Life is like a puzzle. Every piece, even the hard ones, helps complete the picture. Every challenge, every tear, and every smile builds the person we’re meant to become.
And sometimes, in the most unexpected ways, we find healing, growth, and a love we never saw coming.
Here’s one of my favorite songs that I dedicate to him.
Author’s Note
Today, I felt truly happy and lucky to be with Mike. It was more than just a first date—it felt like a dream coming true. It was a moment of joy, a celebration of finally finding someone who fits me like a missing puzzle piece.
Sharing my world with him—from the delicious flavors of Filipino food to the heart of my culture—felt like giving him something truly special. And he welcomed it all with open arms.
For years, I looked up at the stars and wondered if there was someone out there for me. Today, I know the answer is yes. As the Yiddish proverb says, “Every pot finds its own lid.”
Getting here wasn’t easy. Our online relationship had its challenges. We faced distance, doubts, and delays. But all of it was worth it.
Mike is everything I ever hoped for in a partner—and more. He reflects the love I give and returns it with his own quiet strength, kindness, and care.
His actions speak louder than words. With him, I feel safe, seen, and truly loved. He’s helping heal parts of me I thought would stay broken forever.
I’m deeply thankful for this amazing man and for the path that led us to each other. It feels like the universe finally said, “It’s time.”❤
